Tuesday, August 29, 2006

The Art of Marriage


The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say
"I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and
demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner.

21 comments:

lady said...

salamm lalingss..
kita kat ofis lagi ni..penat giler hari ni.
Art of marriage?emmm..abstract!
takut gak citer pasal kawin nih..saya ni kalau bole mau yg agak2 10 thn atau lebih 5 thn dari umo saya,senang nak manjer2..ecewahhhh..

takder laa..sesajer cuba panaskan hati sendiri jer..mengong dah nih.

lady-->>suker lagu farhan..aku sajer yg tau..

arianna adrizal said...

kak,
mm, baru bleh nengok. tq. owh, cite kawen gak eh. org itu kuar satu statement kat sy, "org pmpuan sker betunang dulu eh.." jawab sket kak..

lady, sker gak lagu farhan tu..

Masy said...

salam lalings..
takot ek cite psl kawen?hihi..klu sy stakat dgr sampuk2 sket tu tak berapa takot laa.. :) aaa klu dpt yg lebih tua drpd kite mmg bagus kan? tp taklaah tua smpi 20 thn..opsss..hehe

x penah arr dgr lagu farhan tu..hihi

anne,
ade jee soklan org tu ek..hihi. bgtau dia, ikut org jugek. tp rasanya mostly pompuan mmg prefer btunang dulu, wpon sejam sebelum nikah..opss sape tu ek? ;)
ade yg pentingkan kos, prefer kawen terus..

Deanz said...

Salam..
If u want to learn to love better,
u should start with a friend u hate but...

Masy said...

Salam..
we don't call people we hate as a 'friend'..

*love me, love him but..

arianna adrizal said...

kak,
org pun ckp mcmtu. mungkin pmpuan nk tgk jauh mana lelaki tu komited dgn depa kot. last2 sy tanya,
"awat, ada pmpuan ajak bertunang ka?!!".
teruih tersedak2 mamat tu.. sib baek tak tersembuq cendoi...hahaha!
oppss, org tu la sapa lg ;P

love me, love him but.. ??! ooo...

Masy said...

anne,
tp jgn tunang lame2 ah..nanti jadik cam Faizal Husin n Nasha Aziz kan..ermm..
waaaa ade makan cendol lak tu! jadik aa dia gi dgn anne ek.wah2 ade kemajuan.. baguih..baguih..hihiihih.
ckp psl btunang lak tu...ade makne tu.. wink wink.hihi

arianna adrizal said...

ececehh.. takde maknenyer pun!! saje je tanye tu kot. ala sambil2 tu singgah la makan cendol tepi jln je. campuq perisa habuk br sdap sket.. ;)

org minat tol ngan dak dorang tuu.. lau depa jd kawin mesti anak dorang comeii2 belaka. hihi..

Masy said...

anne,
mana tau dlm takde maknenye ade maknenye..hehehehhee...

akak ske dorang x jadik..muahahahhaah

kurzz said...

ermm nih citer pasal sape nih...musykil alam tul...

Masy said...

kurzz,
campo2..hehehehhe

arianna adrizal said...

huissshh.. jgn kak. kang jadi betul kang.. malu nk sorok muka nih! kihkih...

asal tak skerrr???

kurzz, musykil alam takpe.. jgn dua alam. huahuahuahauuauaa...

*i'm back!

kurzz said...

masy,
ermm campo2? nasik campo tahu laa hihih..

anne
heheh wah2...pandaiinyer dierr...mintak simpang laa hish2..

blackpurple said...

Orang kata bila 'start' pakai 'weeding ring' 'start'lah 'suffering'.....betul ke..? hehe

Masy said...

anne,
alaa watpe sorok muke..jgn le memalu..ape salahnye klu jadik pon..lalalalala
x ske sbb rasa cam x padan je..hihi.

kurzz,
aaa lebih kurang sama aa dgn nasik campo :p

bp,
haaaa betul ke?pekata kita wat kajiselidik kat org2 yg dah kawen..
rasanya klu dah ditanam dlm fikiran awal2 akan suffering, mmg akan suffering la..cube positif :)

faisal said...

ni tanda2 awl akk nak kawin agaknye..heheee

Masy said...

acai,
aaaa pantang je cite psl kawen, akak lak yg kene ek..pandai jee dia ek..cobet kang! ;p hehe

kunci hilang said...

dulu saya fikir kamu sesuai dengan warna hitam.
Hari ini saya berubah fikiran. Putih memang serasi dengan kamu.
:)

Masy said...

kunci hilang,
err..warna utk baju kawen ke?hitam..??sabaaa jelah. putih mmg seswai utk sape2 je.. ;)

Wirawan Terulung said...

art of marriage??
hurmm...tahun ni je dah 8 orang member wirawan kawen. tapi yang geng laki2 lar..
geng pompoan dah selamat tahun lepas lagi...

sape nak kawen ngan wirawan erkk???
:p

Masy said...

wira,
tahun ni kawan2 daku jua berebut² melangsaikan tuntutan agama itu.

tentu laa sorang pompuan wahai wira.. :)